one of my friends statuses interested me today, she was commenting about how a guy had thrown a drink at her because she wouldn't hook up with him... she also politely mentioned to him that she has a boyfriend.
now what is so difficult to understand about that?
how could this message be somehow misinterpreted?
this brought me back to remember when i went out with my friends a couple months ago and one of my friends bumped into a guy she once went out with about two years ago. from what she told me she had told him she wasn't interested.
at the club he jumped at the opportunity to buy her a drink, - notice she didn't ask him for one, nor does she drink alcohol.
within a second he was back with a lemonade and ready to pick up from where they left off two years ago.!!??
my friend is nice and had a chat with him, the basics - what have you been up to? what are you doing now? - BASICS.
that was it, no flirting, no flame re-ignition, nothing.
and yet he felt he was in. in for a hook up. she was to be his exclusively for the night and he had locked her in with a drink...?
she had told him she wasn't interested, she even flirted with an acquaintance of his and yet this only fed his chase for the night.
i don't understand where guys get this from, i mean psychologically guys are meant to be 'sex driven', blah, blah i know that. but where did this aggression come from?
even i myself have had a taste of these aggressive guys, i will be out and some one wants to chat me up, i don't lead them on and yet when i walk away i hear words like 'slut and bitch' being thrown around behind my back.
how am i a slut if i walked away? i have a boyfriend i choose to be faithful to him.
how am i a bitch? because you can't take a little rejection little boy?...
well you poor thing, maybe thats why you give off so much anger, desperation and insecurity.
i put this down to boys trying to make up for what they don't have.
take note throwing around insults isn't the way to go about getting a girl.
since when was saying no, no thanks, not interested, i have a boyfriend, a green light?
now if i wanted to play aggressively then maybe a kick to the balls or a slap to the face will be a little more clearer...
but i'm not like that, and nor should any girl have to be in order to show she is not interested.
i am also not saying all guys are like this, its just a situation i know most girls are familiar with.
in the end there is no need for it. where has chivalry, courtship, being a gentleman or just being plain nice gone?
i'm sure it hasn't completely disappeared, it just would be nice to see it more often.
so boys and girls, be nice. there is no need for so much sexual aggression towards each other.
if you get rejected, take it on the chin and walk away.
if a girl or boy genuinely seems uninterested, don't feel the need to over pursue it, it doesn't necessarily mean they are playing hard to get.
most of us just want a fun night out, no bad sports please. just have some respect for not only yourself but those around you.
xo
b
so true, that same situation has happened to me before. guys can't take rejection so they call you names to make themselves feel better. It's really pathetic. If you tell a guy nicely that your not intrested he'll curse you out, but if your a bitch and give him the could shoulder and walk away you still get cursed out. It's a no win lol. That's why I alwys have my girls around me to pull me away from the situation. Plus im married now so that helps too :D
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